Oh, November. It always creeps up so fast. Somehow, September and October just fly by, with their gorgeous colors and crisp air…and then it’s November, which feels like the Month That Lasts Forever. I must be honest, my friends, this past month has been a challenging one…and while I love Thanksgiving, November is not on my List of Favorite Months. School itself is fine, and work (work! have I even had time to write about that yet?!) is also fine, I just can’t avoid the November Doldrums that come around when the sun slips behind the grey.
So in the spirit of openness and vulnerability, I’ll invite you in to my new office to catch up on the past month, yours and mine. I’ll crank up the heat and put my indoor Uggs on. Tea kettle bubbling, I’ll pour us each a Good Earth Sweet and Spicy tea, brewing it extra dark. I’ll pull up my Miles Davis Pandora station and let you get settled in the new comfy chair.
After asking you about your month and hearing all the latest news from your corner, I’ll share that it’s hard sometimes, knowing how honest to be about the ups and downs of life. Each person’s journey is so different. I don’t want to make anyone feel like there’s a right or wrong way to go through midwifery school. I will say, though, everyone warned me that being in midwifery school can be challenging not just for us as students, but also for our partners.
Between being super busy with assignments and clinical, never having time to cook dinner or do laundry, and always talking about vaginas at every opportunity, being the partner of a midwifery student is not for the faint of heart. I like to think that B and I figured some things out while I was in nursing school (ie, take-out is a perfectly reasonable dinner option and not just during finals week)…but the truth is, it’s hard work for both of us to make sure that we’re making enough time for each other. Midwifery school demands a lot of energy, and not always just academic. It can be hard to summon the energy to be fully present to the other aspects of our lives and relationships.
I share this not to scare people, but because I think strong relationships, of all kinds, are vital to surviving midwifery school. In that vein, I’m always reminding myself that nurturing those relationships is just as important as the papers and labs and loads of reading…the trick is learning how to balance work and home with awareness and sensitivity. Let’s just say some weeks are better than others. Just when I think I have some kind of routine down, the quarter ends and then we’re back to the beginning again.
Taking another sip of chai and casting a dubious look out the rain-covered window, I’d ask you how you find motivation on the days when it feels easier just to snuggle down under the covers. My regular care routine includes a sun lamp (essential in Oregon!), lots of Vitamin D and adrenal support herbs. I’m also much more gentle with myself in terms of the number of social engagements I commit to attending. November is my month for holing up with a book and some tea most nights per week. Or, let’s be real: just going to bed really early.
I’d also share how grateful I am to have this new office of mine. After nine years of sharing office space with B, I decided it was time for a room of my own. B works from home and is on the computer/phone all the time, which makes studying at home a challenge. So, with the bit of extra income from my new job, I’m renting a little 8×8 room near work. Most of November has been spent slowly making it my own space. I didn’t realize how much I needed this space until I had it…but now I can’t imagine my life without it. I know it’s such a luxury, especially as a student…but it has been such a gift during this dark, cold weeks. Having such a warm cozy space outside my house makes it a little easier to drum up motivation to get going on the days I’d rather hide under the blankets.
Pausing to refill with some fresh hot water, I’d share that despite moving a bit more slowly these days, I’ve still got some exciting projects on the burners…between planning our annual Roe v. Wade anniversary event on campus with local medical and law students, stepping into a board position with Nursing Students for Choice, and settling into my own with my job (more soon, I promise!), life is feeling full. It will be interesting to see how this all flows next term when I add prenatal clinic to my schedule (can’t. wait!!!).
Before we wrap up, I’ll share the start of my winter break fun list…and invite you to share what’s on yours!
- Christmas Snowshoeing at Mt. Adams
- Making lots of soups and dishes with potatoes…
- Reading, of course! This, and this, and this…to start.
Wishing you a nourishing November, that flows at just the right speed for you. See you in December, post-finals!