[Friday Wrap Up]: 14

Whee! This particular Wrap Up is sweetened by the news that I managed to score an A in Microbiology! I don’t normally care about the grades, but I do feel like I’ve learned a lot this term and it’s always nice to see the effort reflected in the evaluation of my work. I really enjoyed the class…and…I’m pretty stoked to be done. It’s my last pre-nursing class, which is lovely milestone to celebrate!

But now…now I have at least six months to do lots of other things. Like read novels (I devoured Hanna Plyväinen’s We Sinners in a day. Barbara Kingsolver’s new novel is up next). And post more about all the great articles that cross my feed.

So, let’s do it! Here’s a nice rambly Friday Wrap Up for you.

I really, really want more health care providers–OB’s, midwives, nurses, everybody–to be talking more about ways that we can improve the healthcare experience for trans and genderqueer folks. We need to hear more stories like this, because it helps us re-frame our language around the experience of being pregnant and giving birth. Which is to say, it’s not a singular experience.

The moment I began to show I also began to receive attention from family that were previously put off or offended by not just my physical appearance, but my life in whole — my body as a representative of the identity beneath. As my body changed it seems most people believe my identity changed with it. Even close friends began to make assumptions about my life that would make no sense at all if it were not for the undeniable swollen changes to my form.

As a full spectrum doula, I think language is really, really important, and this awareness about language is part of what makes full spectrum doula care so powerful. It’s definitely a strength I think I carry with me into my work as a midwife.

I have an IUD myself and definitely have caught myself extolling the virtues of my Paragard. But it’s not for everyone…and going back to the idea of language and stigma, I don’t think it’s helpful to try and “evangelize” anything related to reproductive health care. People make choices for a variety of reasons; other decisions are not so much decisions so much as reactions to financial limitations and lack of access, care provider bias, etc. So let’s not get all preachy about what’s best, because everybody’s different.

Still formulating thoughts on this analysis of the potential impacts on older parents. My initial gut instinct is: Do we really need another article telling us all the scary stuff that can happen when you conceive after 35? Don’t we know this already?

What’s the point of yet another article that will only generate a comment thread that quickly pits those for the “young parents” on one side and “older parents” on the other? We already have so many forums on which women can judge each other, blatantly or not, for, well, pretty much anything and everything related to parenting.

This article felt like just another in a long list…but there were some factual tidbits about ART science and research that I found interesting, like the unknowns about the culturing media for sperm…so, go read it.

One thought on “[Friday Wrap Up]: 14

  1. I think what’s most important about the article about aging parents is that it focused considerably more on the dangers of older fathers than it did on older mothers. That is not the narrative we’re most often exposed to, and I think that science is going to be pivotal in changing how men approach dating, relationships and parenthood. It’s not just about withering eggs anymore!

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